(Cartoon courtesy of Greg Evans and “The Homeschooling Diva’s” Pinterest board and blog)
“What about socialization?”
Probably the most commonly asked question of any home-schooling family, traditional or virtual, is regarding socialization when being quizzed on *why* their child is not in a brick and mortar public school.
Let’s first begin with those b&m public schools, shall we? Yes, there are some good ones out there but the majority are severely lacking in not only academics but overall provision of adequate social outlets for their students.
Then again, is school REALLY about socializing to begin with?
Their teachers are overworked, overwhelmed, and often they’re too inexperienced to deal with a classroom of 30+ children AND the student’s parents, who are not always the friendliest toward the teacher and the school in general from what I used to encounter when our children were in a b&m public school.
And socializing? With no disrespect meant, I strongly urge any parent of a b&m public school student to take a day away from home or work and spend time at your child’s school and in their classroom.
In other words, view and experience the type of “socializing” your child does Monday through Friday and then get back to me on what you feel is exceptional and what you feel is severely lacking.
Too often, b&m public schools will house children who emotionally break down and mentally challenge a child who does not know how to defend themselves or perhaps might be a little different from the rest and these other kids continue doing so because it’s….what? Fun?
And teachers are either limited in what they can do (suspension and expulsion anyone?) to stop the bullying and/or are not willing to do…at all. “Kids will be kids,” seems to be a common motto and that leaves me personally scratching my head.
Kids learn by example and by what they’re capable of getting away with. A ps teacher and/or administrator turns their back and ignores blatant bullying, they’re sending the message to the bullies and the child being harassed that it’s OK to do this. After all, this is what kids do, right? “Kids” being “kids.”
The very people that are paid to teach our children are far too often perpetuating a social disease known as bullying by doing diddly squat about it.
Lovely. :::rolling eyes:::
So tell me again, oh inquisitive ones, about “socialization?” Just exactly WHAT do you feel my child is missing out on exactly by being educated here at home? Do you honestly feel she should be subjected to potential bullying by ignored, enabled children who may very well have their own problems and THIS is WHY they do what they do to their classmates?
No thanks! You can’t pay me to send my child back to that type of hostile, toxic environment.
For the record, we left the public school debacle NOT because of bullying but because of lack of a school district to give a royal toot about educating our children effectively and paying those teachers who DO care enough to want to continue to try harder with their students.
So back to socialization. Is it really a belief that home-schooled children are little morons locked in a cage and fed the three R’s through the bars? “I know a lot of home-schooled kids who are afraid of their own shadows.” <~~I’ve heard that one before by those who felt compelled to ask myself and my child the famous “what about socialization” question.
I’m sure there are children out there like that who are home-schooled and I’ve sadly been witness to them a time or two. However, I’ve seen children like that who attend a b&m public school, too.
So what say you to that, nosy bodies?
Could it be–and stay with me here–that the child who is afraid of their own shadow IS SO due to something else? Perhaps home environment in general? Perhaps an emotional issue or learning disability? Or hey…maybe they don’t really care for people…period and it’s not about fear but about simply wanting to be left alone and be allowed to pick and choose whom they allow into their world?
I often want to tell these overly opinionated souls that perhaps wearing a ceramic copy of their foot on a chain as a necklace would serve them well for those moments of “foot in mouth” disease due to not THINKING prior to questioning the private lives of home-schooled children and the decision-making of their parents.
Socialization. When these Duddley Do Wrongs can define to me the advantage of socializing in a public school setting while at the same time, doing so with an open mind that perhaps they really don’t know what they’re talking about when they question an individual home-schooling family, then perhaps I will be equally as open-minded to their concerns.
As of right now, I’ve yet to meet someone who fits that criteria.
Till the next time…. 😉